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Theo's avatar

Love that metaphor. ๐Ÿ‘ (And the photo of Skye!)

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Ben Detalle's avatar

Glad it resonated, Theo!

And had no idea that photo was of Skye -- makes it even better!

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Theo's avatar

Yeah, the 'Old Man of Storr' โ€“ which I've only ever seen in rubbish weather!

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Ben Detalle's avatar

Hehe. Wonder what % of days there get no rain. Canโ€™t imagine itโ€™s much at all.

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Theo's avatar

Stornoway had 6 hours of sunshine in all of December ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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Ben Detalle's avatar

How's January doing?

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Tania Tyler ๐ŸŒฟ's avatar

A refreshing post. I appreciate you discussing the need for balance between doing and being. These topics are usually presented as one or the other. And this-> "Itโ€™s easy to mistake this as being passiveโ€”itโ€™s not. Itโ€™s about noticing what arises in every moment without judgement."

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Ben Detalle's avatar

Thanks Tania, happy to hear it resonated.

How do you navigate this balance in your life?

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Tania Tyler ๐ŸŒฟ's avatar

I'm retired now ๐Ÿ˜Ž The things I DO are more about BEing - gardening, writing, meditation, drawing.

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Ben Detalle's avatar

That sounds lovely. Howโ€™s the garden doing? Have things exploded into life yet?

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Tania Tyler ๐ŸŒฟ's avatar

It's been a late spring here with lots of rain but yes, when we get a sunny day, you can see the plants growing. Everything is extra lush and green this year. ๐ŸŒฟ

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Ben Detalle's avatar

It is very green. Letโ€™s see what the summer will bring.

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Jack Dixon's avatar

I loved this, Ben. This line especially hit home for me: "Very often, a plan is nothing more than a desired sequence of events." So much wisdom there in setting expectations and distinguishing a plan in theory versus the outcomes in reality.

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Ben Detalle's avatar

Thanks for saying Jack. Iโ€™m glad it resonated with you. As for plans, itโ€™s true that itโ€™s so easy to build up dangerous expectations. Even for people who plan a lot, itโ€™s been my experience that they get frustrated the second reality deviates from it.

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Ana Oลพura Breฤko's avatar

Wonderful! Thank you Ben!

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Ben Detalle's avatar

Thanks for reading Ana! Does this dichotomy make sense to you? I was wrestling with this idea for some time and Iโ€™m curious to hear what others think about it.

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Ana Oลพura Breฤko's avatar

Definitely, it is like two sides of the same coin, stopping, just being and being consistent look like opposites but are actually all basic conscious actions in my opinion.

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Ben Detalle's avatar

โ€œBasic conscious actionsโ€. That makes sense.

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